Dear ‘fairer’ sex,

Life is too short to worry about things that you cannot control.

Worrying is a form of anxiety which is the brain’s way of trying to protect you from deeper fears.
Have you realised that whenever you worry, your mind subconsciously looks for external
sources to try to relieve the mind of doubts or uncertainness regarding your life decisions?
Ironically though, the brain is trying to protect the mind, worrying being a form of anxiety
creates the opposite effects as it feeds on insecurities and can significantly affect one’s self-
confidence.

According to EleganceJournal, “Understanding that you are only responsible for yourself,
and cannot control what others perceive will give you a new perspective about some worries you
may have.

“Elegant women are aware of their pure intentions, and have learned not to worry about what
cannot be changed or controlled. They instead refocus their energy on what is productive and
how they can continue being a source of light,” said the online publication for women.

Our Today lists the four areas in life women shouldn’t dwell on any longer than they
need to, but easier said than done, right?

One step at a time ladies… the list consists of:

Your past

Past mistakes are normal. Everybody makes mistakes and mistakes are natural. Women
shouldn’t see mistakes as failures but as lessons that can guide them forward. They focus on the
lesson learnt to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future.

#LearnFromMentorshipNotMistakes

Your future

Do you consider yourself as a high value woman? If so, don’t preoccupy your time with things
you cannot predict or control. Like sure, be a planner and take your future into your own hands,
however, take calculated risks and most importantly don’t become a hard woman, with a high
guard up.

#BeOpenMinded

Rejection

So, what if you get rejected? There are so many fish in the sea. Honeys, don’t take rejections
personally. Instead, refocus your energy on people and opportunities that feel right. Our Today
suggests thinking of being blocked as an opportunity to re-strategise or just do something different.

#HisHerLoss

Other’s opinion

Other people’s opinion are often a projection of their own insecurity or limitations in life. Again,
take nothing personally, definitely not from a person who matters the least to you or contributes
nothing at all towards your well-being.

The aim is to become a confident woman, one who can validate herself without seeking the
approval or attention from others.

According to Jamaican visual artiste and businesswoman, Namloht: “I am true to myself and only
I can say who I need to be!”