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‘Tis the season is thought of as a time of joy and togetherness, but for many, it can also bring feelings of loneliness. So, Our Today has explored how people cope with these emotions, we spoke with five Jamaicans from different walks of life about their strategies for navigating the holidays.

Interview Responses

Finding Company

If you’re looking for a reason to find a temporary partner, Adam Moodie, 35, offers his approval. Recently divorced, Moodie says it’s perfectly fine to have a “sneaky link,” as he calls it, during the Christmas season to fend off loneliness.

“You have to get a sneaky link and put her to good use,” he said. “She might not get to wear matching PJs with you, but she’ll be good for warmth and cuddles.”

This idea of getting a temporary partner during the winter season is called ‘Cuffing season”. Merriam-Webster defines this as the time of year when single people seek temporary relationships to avoid loneliness. It typically begins in October and ends in February, aligning with major holidays like Christmas, New Year’s, and Valentine’s Day.

Finding Community
Jonathan Reid, 33, electrician, shares that he combats loneliness during the Christmas season by spending his time at bars with his friends. Reid is single by choice, waiting for the perfect partner, and is also estranged from his family.

“I handle the loneliness with rum,” he said. “Rum, friends and a good time and cure any level of loneliness. My friends are my family, so it’s never a dull season once I am with them.”

Staying Active
Shadae Williams, 31, a single mother, discusses how physical activities like jogging in the morning help maintain a positive outlook.

“I find other ways to occupy my time…I get creative, and for some reason, I become even more friendly and interactive so I am not alone with my thoughts.”

“I also tend to pick up holiday shifts at work, to keep busy…that also helps,” she added.

Reaching Out to Loved Ones
For Brandon Keyes, 26, who is unemployed and single, fostering connections is key. He explained how scheduling video calls or sending heartfelt messages helps them feel connected during the holidays.

“Make the call you should have made months ago,” he said. “Those family members and friends were forgotten about throughout the year because we are so busy, take this time to reconnect with them.”

According to the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), reaching out to friends, family, and community groups is crucial when trying to alleviate feelings of loneliness.

Focus On What You Have

Focusing on what you already have can be a powerful way to combat loneliness during the Christmas season. By appreciating existing connections, hobbies, and personal achievements, you can cultivate gratitude and fulfilment, making the holidays feel more meaningful.

“I don’t have a man, but I do have my family, and they make Christmas fun for me,” said Audreen Lee, 38, entrepreneur. “I have no kids, either, but guess what? I am an aunt and those kids get to enjoy me spoiling them for the season, and I look forward to it every year.”

While loneliness during the holidays is a common challenge, the strategies shared by these individuals highlight not only their positive mindsets but also the fixes they employ to find joy and connection.

Yes, these responses may not help every individual, but it’s a call to action to figure out what may work for you.

Feel free to comment your thoughts on how to combat loneliness this Christmas below!