Reading Time: 5 minutes

“Give me your unconditional love, the kind of love I deserve.”

If you identify with these lyrics, you are not alone, after all that’s what most people dream of when it comes on to relationships.

At times it can be quite difficult to understand your partner and even more difficult to give of yourself unconditionally. Well, that usually happens when you don’t know your partner.

It can often feel like you are from different planets and are never able to be on the same page.

They say opposite attract, but how do you really connect with someone who’s different from you?

Communicate! Talking with your partner is the best way to get to know them better. One of the most important questions you might want to ask your partner is, what is your love language?

With this, you’ll find out all there is to know about keeping you partner feeling loved and happy.

The five love languages can impact your relationship positively, that’s according to the experts.

There are five love languages, as first introduced in 1992 by marriage counselor Dr Gary Chapman in his book, The 5 Love Languages.

Love Language #1 – Words of Affirmation

Words of affirmation is a love language that expresses love with words that build your partner up and make them feel truly appreciated.

 It’s all about expressing affection and appreciation through words, be it spoken, written, a text, or all of the above, your word means the world to them.

There is nothing complicated about verbal compliments, the simplest words of admiration can be most effective.

Slipping your spouse a note saying:

“That blazer suits you; I love it.”

“You are rocking that dress!”

“Your smile always brighten up my day.”

A few words can make a world of difference if your partner has this love language. Compliments and an “I love you” can go a mighty long way in your relationship.

If your partner’s primary language is words of affirmation, ensure you have an open line of communication with them, they won’t ever get tired of hearing your voice.

Love Language # 2 –Acts of Service

Action, not a bag a mouth!

If your partner’s love language is acts of service, for them your actions will speak louder than your words.

This love language focuses on specific actions that show you care and understand your partner.

Do it, don’t say it! Ironing, cooking a meal, doing the laundry, raking the yard, get the grocery on your way from work are all acts of service, that require thought, time and effort.

This is something your partner will love and appreciate because, when you do these acts of service you display how much you love them.

You should do all these acts with positivity and your partner’s ultimate happiness in mind for them to be considered an expression of love. So, no murmuring folks, you do these acts out of love.

Love Language #3 – Receiving gifts

If your partner’s love language is receiving gifts, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are materialistic and just after the green stuff.

Let’s just get it out of the way, this love language is not reserved for the greedy or so-called “gold diggers”.

It just means that a meaningful or thoughtful gift makes your partner feel loved and appreciated.

For someone whose love language is gifts, it goes way beyond just wanting stuff. For this person, it’s all about the meaning behind the gift and the thought that went into it.

No diamonds or pearls are required, something as simple as getting their favourite chocolate to surprise them after a long day will make a huge impact.

The right gift can show your partner that you listen and understand them, making them feel adored.

Love Language #4 – Physical touch

The late Olivia Newton John said it best – let’s get physical! Not sure if this is the best example, but yeah, let’s get physical.

For people whose love language is physical touch, expressing and receiving love through physical contact is important. Touch is the way they love and feel loved with others.

The physical touch love language can often be confused as purely being sexual, but that’s not the case.

It is more about showing intimacy and understanding your partner’s needs.

Keep the hugs and kisses coming! To people with this love language, nothing is more beautiful than the physical touch of their partner.

Individuals whose love language is physical touch will feel unloved and neglected without experiencing physical contact.

They want to feel and be close by not just emotionally but physically. All of the gifts in the world wouldn’t change that.

Love Language #5- Quality Time

Oh time, precious time. How it eludes so many, you just can’t seem to have enough time.

Well, if your partner’s love language is quality time, you definitely will want to find or make that time, because it’s all about giving your undivided attention to your partner.

A person whose love language is quality time may feel most loved and appreciated when people they care about make time to be together and give their undivided attention.

This may mean curling up on the couch and watching Netflix or walking in the park, it just means you need to make sure to dedicate time together without distractions.

These individuals want your time and nothing more. Keep the love lock going with date nights and game nights.

This will help them feel comforted and appreciated!

Remember, every individual has a different love language, so what works for the goose won’t be a sure thing for the gander.