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JAM | Jun 14, 2021

“Talk to the Hand!” – 4 ways to Deal with Offensive Behaviour

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Not because you were ‘dissed’ means you should return the diss.

After all the Bible did say in Proverbs 15 verses 1: “A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.”

Therefore, whether you believe in the Bible or not, these words are really saying ‘there’s a way to respond to offensive behaviour or verbal abuse.’

If you are the type of person to take pride in your personal brand, that requires not engaging in public confrontations.

Agree, or nah?

If you truly want to protect your personal brand or even your personal sanity, would you get involved in a physical aggression or altercations? 

I would hope not.

According to the Elegance Journal, “Recognising that offensive behaviour stems from deep, unhealed wounds in people, and is rarely ever a personal comment on you, can help you develop more compassion towards the offender”.

This aforementioned quote by the Elegance Journal is saying the same exact thing as the Bible, well basically…

“You never know what’s going on, so instead of continuing in a disagreement muchless one that is public, walk away.”

Guy walking away from an argument, (Photo: Dr. Andre Blaylock)

#TimeandPlace

Elegance Journal: “This doesn’t exonerate anyone. In fact, some people use aggression to try and provoke a reaction in you, to tarnish your image and reputation in other people’s eyes.”

Good people, don’t let them have the satisfaction of seeing you get angry.

I like to say, “we are above that,” however, some people really don’t know how to deal with such behaviour that comes their way.

Our Today is here to help you, whoever you are!

Firstly, and most obviously, don’t react.

Photo: Etsy

If you do, that’s one point given to your provoker.

Staying still and keeping quiet isn’t necessarily the easiest mission to accomplish.

However, in order to become unbothered enough to walk away, this requires practice and an active effort to just stop and pause in the moment.

“Pausing in the moment will save you from losing face or any public embarrassment that you might regret later on,” said the Elegance Journal.

Therefore, Our Today has taken to share four approaches suggested by the Elegance Journal when handling negative, rude or offensive behaviour:

Respond with kindness

#KillthemWithKindness literally


Respond with authenticity

#BeFirmRealandStraightothePoint

Use humour

#NothingisEverThatPersonal

Ignore and walk away

#Period

I am not suggesting ‘not dealing with your frustrations,’ I’m suggesting ‘dealing with it in private.’

It is important to express and most times validate your feelings in order to avoid any build-up inside.

Guys this is for you as well, most men might not want to walk away, but it will save your fist from being all bruised up.

How would you respond to a negative, rude or hated behaviour aimed at you?

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